Send mourning flowers

condolence flower

It is not always easy to find words to say to someone who has lost a loved one. Sending flowers is a way to bring comfort on this occasion. From the simple bouquet to the crown, a vast choice in the form of floral arrangements is offered by florists. The flowers are usually sent to the scene of the ceremony, but sometimes to the home of the family.

Is it appropriate to send flowers to a funeral? When should I send them? Why offer flowers for the death of a loved one, a friend, remains and will always be an elegant gesture to express your condolences and show your support.

Which composition to choose for the flowering of a mourning? Choices are varied and making the right decision can be difficult. You must take into account the deceased person’s personality, their tastes and their relationship to you.

What color (s) of mourning flowers to choose for a funeral? What do the different varieties of flowers mean?

Should I send flowers to the funeral service or to the family’s home? What are the rules to observe? Funeral flowers are meant to show respect, provide comfort and celebrate the memory of the missing person.

Should I send flowers? When?

A symbol of rebirth

The graves have always been blooming. Religious or not, the funeral rite is a marker of civilization that shows our humanity. And the flowers are there to mark the passage to the other world. Bouquets of funeral vigil, wreaths, wreaths, without forgetting the floral arrangements, the floral arrangements are multiple.

The flowering of funerals is a multi-millennial tradition, which has been traced back to ancient Egypt. Paintings already showed the flowers as a symbol of the reborn life. The flowers were initially worth offerings, the bouquet being synonymous with hope of life, related to the myth of the resurrection. We find traces of funeral rituals featuring flowers around the world.

Sometimes the bouquet represents the deceased himself. Wreaths and garlands of flowers adorned mummies, sarcophagi, coffin, burial chambers, as a symbol of immortality. The funeral ceremony is above all a rite of “passage”. In the ritual, the flowers create a material and spiritual connection between the deceased and the living. It is a concrete way of accompanying him on his journey to the hereafter and to seal forever the attachment that one has for him.

Even now, the flowers are pledges of immortality and symbolize the immaterial rebirth of the soul. They make it possible to establish a palpable link between the living and the disappeared person: it is the roses thrown on the tomb, it is the maintenance of the flowers on the grave, which are so many links with the one who left. This gives them a sacred dimension, even in a technological society like ours. The flowers keep a soothing virtue on the bruised spirits and allow to express in silence very strong feelings.

Express your feelings in a discreet way

Because flowers are meaningful, they allow us to express feelings and emotions in a discreet way, especially when words are hard to find. They are a tribute to the missing person and a symbol of the link that unites us to this one. It is a stage in mourning.
Many of us bring some to flower the burial or to pay homage. If it is impossible to go to the funeral, it is also the possibility of having flowers delivered in mourning to testify to his affliction. Their beauty recalls the cycles, the seasons, the momentary character of our presence in the world. Flowering a burial is finally a way to pay tribute, to show respect.

The different compositions

Bouquets of Mourning: Fresh cut flowers are a very popular choice for bouquets of mourning. There are a multitude of sizes and colors. You will find bouquets with large stems, round bouquets, sometimes composed of the most exotic flowers for a sumptuous result, other times all white (lilies, white roses …) to signify purity and peace. To last longer, they can be offered as a drop of water. The cut flowers can be placed on the grave during the ceremony and are accepted as condolences. Simple or sumptuous, they will be there at each stage of the ceremony.
The sheaves for death: sheaves are larger in size than bouquets. These are bouquets of flowers worked horizontally, the flowers are spread on foliage with stems of different sizes. These sheaves are there during the ceremony and are deposited on the grave. They allow the florist to express all his know-how. Commonly used for mourning, sheaves of mourning are larger than bouquets. To allow them to last longer, there are also pricked sheaves, ie flowers stitched in florist foam soaked in water, to retain moisture. The flowers therefore fade less quickly and can last more than a week.
The cushions and hearts of flowers: they are tight compositions, with short stems. They have a good behavior and do not fear successive manipulations along the ceremony. The cushions are circular or square, but can also be heart-shaped. The cushions in the form of hearts are particular compositions, they are reserved for the people closest to the deceased.
Funeral wreaths: This tradition of the wreath dates back to the earliest times. The crown is one of the most traditionally associated compositions of mourning. She was already there to accompany the mummies. This circular form symbolizes the cycle of life, the renewal, the resurrection of the soul, the eternal life … The crown also symbolizes the infinite and the eternity, as it could be the crown of laurels for the athletes, the emperors . It often has an imposing size and can be presented flat, which already requires a large amount of flowers, or on a tripod in a vertical way, with an even larger volume of flowers, often installed next to the coffin. A ribbon can be placed on the crown, to address a message or recall a filiation of a simple word: “Mom”, “Uncle”. A colorful crown may be appropriate if the deceased had a taste for bright colors. The always sure choice is to favor white flowers to represent purity and respect.
baskets of flowers: they are often made from field flowers. Participants may be invited to drop a flower from the basket on the coffin of the deceased.
Potted plants: once the ceremony is over, flowering potted plants are often brought home by the family of the deceased. They remain as a memory of being lost and a mark of your consideration. Lilies are commonly used as plants for funerals. They are available in large pots that gracefully blend on the floor next to wreaths and cut flowers. Potted orchids are other options for providing comfort to bereaved people.

Flower varieties

All varieties of flowers can be used for funerals. Here are some species.

The Rose

Roses are a very common funeral flower and quite appropriate. Each color has a slightly different meaning. White roses are the ultimate symbol of spirituality, purity and innocence and can be aimed at a child. Red roses are reserved for the husband or wife of the deceased and symbolize deep love. Pink roses mean love, grace, kindness. The yellow roses are sent by friends to symbolize close ties.Traditionally, roses are the most used flowers by relatives to pay homage to a deceased.
The carnation
The carnation is often used: it is a symbol of sobriety, respect, tenderness. It can be favored by people who do not have too close a degree of proximity with the deceased. Carnations are often used in funeral wreaths and assemblies. Carnations are also widely used for Catholic funerals because associated with the Virgin Mary. The red carnation evokes admiration and conjugal love, the pink carnation the memory, the white carnation the innocence and the pure love.


The lotus flower

It symbolizes the eternity of life.


To pay homage to the joy of living. It is a fragile flower.


The lily is often considered the funeral flower par excellence, it is traditionally very present in Catholic funerals. This flower is seen as a symbol of purity and radiance of the soul. This aromatic flower is associated with the resurrection of Christ and suggests that the soul of the deceased is now at peace.
This lily-like plant also symbolizes peace, innocence and the rebirth of the soul. It can be sent in pots to the home of the bereaved person.


The message of the orchid is very clear: it symbolizes eternal love. It is a flower that can last really long when it is offered in pots. Some species of orchids would be more appropriate than others to offer condolences. Do not hesitate to ask your florist for advice.
The chrysanthemum may be suitable for funerals, but in France this November flower is mainly used to commemorate the dead. this flower will not be used to symbolize, it will be found on the grave of the deceased in some floral arrangements.



Spring flowers, often used in floral arrangements. The white color variety means that the missing person is in your prayers.


An ornamental plant with an undulating silhouette. For a moving tribute.


Rather offered in pots to bloom a grave, or at the home of the bereaved family. Symbol of sincere emotions.


Gladiolus, a long-stemmed flower, symbolizes strength of character and moral integrity. White, pastel, vibrant, or even two-tone.


Symbol of renewal and new departures, a gift to encourage the afflicted in the ordeal, to send as a gift to the home.

The label

After the death of someone, you can of course want to send flowers. Certain factors are still to be taken into account, first of all, of course, your relationship with the deceased or the survivors. Other tips can help you decide what to do.

Donations to a charity

Some people may ask for a donation to a charity instead of flowers. If the family has asked for a donation to a charity, you must of course respect that request. Thereafter, nothing prevents you from sending an orchid or a bouquet of roses a few days after the funeral.

Sympathy messages

If you send flowers, a brief note of sympathy is appropriate. Here are some suggestions for what to write.

When to send

You can send flowers to the family of the deceased at any time. The flowers are a comforting reminder that friends continue to think of the family. If you send them to the funeral home, make sure they arrive as soon as possible. It’s never too early or too late to send flowers home to family members. You can even send or deliver flowers a few weeks or months later to show that you are still thinking of them once the ceremony is over. A nice gesture is to send sympathy flowers to the family’s home after the burial to remind private that you have not forgotten them or their loss. And even if a few weeks have passed since the death, throughout the mourning.

Reason to send flowers

The purpose of flowers at the funeral is to celebrate life. Whether the arrangement is formal or informal, it should provide comfort and help the family of the deceased in a particularly difficult time. Avoid anything that is too superficial, such as balloons or soft toys in the arrangement. If possible, write a handwritten note to accompany the flowers.

Direct family members, and more distant circles

Direct members can order any type of floral arrangement. Some types are indeed reserved for immediate family members, the flowers will be placed closest to the deceased. You can have heart-shaped floral arrangements, for example.

Something discreet …

A mix of all-white flowers makes a classic arrangement, and you can never go wrong. The white flowers represent humility and respect. Even if it is a moment of sadness, it is also preferable to send a lively and colorful arrangement.

Condolence flowers or funeral flowers?

Flowers of condolence can be sent directly to the family of the deceased, they are often bouquets or potted plants. Funeral flowers, such as wreaths or snowshoes, must be sent for the ceremony, as they are too meaningful, and can not simply decorate the home of the bereaved family.

To be represented by flowers

Because we can not always be present, flowers are a delicate message to show relatives of the disappeared that you think of them. It is a gesture of consolation and hope. The flowers of mourning make it possible to pay homage to the deceased, even if one is not physically there to be able to say a few words.